Parashat Toldot: The Perennial Wanderers

 Looking through my parents’ documents recently, I came across my father’s British Certificate of Registration booklet which was issued to him on 26^th November 1963.

 

 

My mother and father had emigrated to this country just over a month before, on 20^th October (which was a week after Simchat Torah) and this was his ‘passport’, as it were, to settle in the United Kingdom.  A month later, and coincidentally exactly 62 years ago today, President Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas, Texas.

My parents had a framed photo of JFK on a shelf in our kitchen.  When I was old enough to understand, they explained what had happened to him.  His youthful demeanour and the tragedy of his untimely death filled my thoughts as I grew up.

Most crucially, the fact that his picture sat there for decades was a testament to my father’s wish that to his dying day he was, and would always be, American.  His levaya/funeral on 4^th July 2023 was proof (in my opinion at least) to his tenacity in holding on to his US Citizenship for the rest of his life (he refused to be naturalised in the UK).  I am in no doubt that he would have found the date on which he was buried highly appropriate and amusing!

Both of my parents were born in Antwerp, Belgium.  During World War II, my mother and her family lived in fear under semi-curfew in Spa, a village in the Ardennes, half-an-hour’s drive from the German border.  My father managed to escape to the US with his parents in April 1940 and grew up in New York City.

My mother’s parents were born in Australia and Poland respectively whilst my father’s began their lives in Belgium and The Netherlands.  My daughters’ maternal grandparents were born in Turkey and pre-state Israel.

This week’s Parasha of Toldot is very dear to my heart as it is my Barmitzvah sedra.  It begins with this verse (as translated in the Hertz Chumash):

And these are the generations of Isaac, Abraham’s son: Abraham begot Isaac (Bereshit 25.19)

Toldot details the lives of two of these generations, that of Yitzchak, Rivka and their twin sons, Yaakov and Eisav.  Within the first few verses, we learn that Yaakov has prepared a pot of lentils for his father Yitzchak, who is mourning the death of Avraham, the first of the Avot/Patriarchs.  At the tender age of 15, the youngster recognizes the significance of his grandfather’s passing whilst his eldest twin brother, Esav is more interested in feeding his stomach than aggrandising his soul.

By the end of the Parasha Yaakov, due to circumstances many of which are beyond his control, finds himself running for his life away from Eisav who wishes to kill him.

Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaakov were the first Jewish wanderers although Yitzchak, who moved around the country, was instructed by Hashem not to leave the land of Israel.  Grandfather and grandson began their lives in one country and found themselves having to leave it to reach another.  In Avraham’s case, initially from Ur Kasdim (in modern day Iraq) to Charan (in Southeast Turkey) and eventually to Eretz Yisrael.  In Yaakov’s, a journey in the opposite direction, culminating in Charan.

However, whenever they arrived in a location, they found themselves having to leave it, facing hostility and envy engendered by the local inhabitants.  Twice, Avraham had to pretend to be his wife’s brother to escape death and Yaakov had to deal with the machinations dreamt up by his deceitful uncle, Lavan.  Once settled back in Canaan, he found himself embroiled in the terrible events at Shechem (revolving around the violation of his only daughter, Dina) and in old age, when we are told that he finally settled (the first word in Parashat Vayeishev), his beloved son, Joseph was sold by his brothers and then taken down to Egypt.

There is a line towards the end of Fiddler on the Roof following the wistful song of Anatevka where Mendel the Rabbi’s son says, “And our forefathers have been forced out of many, many places at a moment’s notice.” To which Tevya shrugs and replies, “Maybe that’s why we always wear our hats.”  As a child of refugees, I can certainly relate to this.

We seem to be the perennial wanderers.  How many of us are still in the locations where we grew up?  There are many reasons why we may have moved.  Life has a way of opening up new paths and sometimes, financial constraints limit our abilities to stay where we would wish.  However, I also believe that there is something nomadic in our DNA, an internal drive to remind us that, as much as we would like to feel settled, we simply can’t.

My late great-grandfather, Aron Vecht, was born in Elburg, a historic town in the province of Gelderland and lived in London, Melbourne, Sydney, Cape Town, Buenos Aires and finally Antwerp where he passed away. He was later reinterred in the new city of Tel Aviv.  He was known as ‘The Wandering Jew’ and carries on this tradition.  Referencing Tevya’s response to Mendel, he also had a very distinctive hat!

There is a famous song from the early 1960s called ‘The Wanderer’ which was a sizeable hit for Dion DiMucci, a New York native with a proud Italian Catholic heritage.  Although the context is different, I think we can all relate to the line:

Oh well, I'm the type of guy who will never settle down… they call me the wanderer, Yeah, the wanderer.  I roam around, around, around…

Jewish history has branded us the Wanderers who roam around, around and around.

One day our dream, unlike Dion’s protagonist and ironically Dion himself, has been happily married to his wife Susan for the same period of 62 years, is to settle down in security, peace and harmony with our Gentile neighbours. Please Gd may it come to us and all of Israel very soon but until then, I’ll make sure to keep my hat nearby because you never know when and where I might have to wear it again.  Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaakov would no doubt agree.

Shavuah Tov.